{"id":599806,"date":"2018-07-03T08:32:14","date_gmt":"2018-07-03T14:32:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/?p=599806"},"modified":"2018-07-03T12:04:42","modified_gmt":"2018-07-03T18:04:42","slug":"i-just-want-to-tell-my-son-i-love-him","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/2018\/07\/i-just-want-to-tell-my-son-i-love-him\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;I just want to tell my son I love him&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_597042\"  class=\"wp-caption module image alignnone\" style=\"max-width: 771px;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-large wp-image-597042\" src=\"http:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/20180626-facilities-map-3x2-771x514.jpg\" alt=\"Casa Padre\" width=\"771\" height=\"514\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/20180626-facilities-map-3x2-771x514.jpg 771w, https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/20180626-facilities-map-3x2-336x224.jpg 336w, https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/20180626-facilities-map-3x2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/20180626-facilities-map-3x2-1170x780.jpg 1170w, https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/20180626-facilities-map-3x2.jpg 2000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 771px) 100vw, 771px\" \/><p class=\"wp-media-credit\">U.S. Department of Health and Human Services<\/p><p class=\"wp-caption-text\">Immigrant children inside a Texas facility on June 14.<\/p><\/div>\n<p>LOS FRESNOS, Texas \u2014 Calling from an unreliable phone at the Port Isabel Detention Center, her voice sounds muffled, and far away. To be understood, she needs to keep repeating herself. For her to hear the person calling, they need to yell.<\/p>\n<p>Blanca wishes more than anything else that it was her two daughters, ages 6 and 14, on the other end of the line. But she hasn\u2019t spoken to them since they were separated at the border, after a long journey from Honduras. It\u2019s been almost three weeks.<\/p>\n<p>To arrange calls at the facility run by Immigration and Customs Enforcement, parents need to fill out a request form. Blanca says she has submitted five.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThis is maddening,\u201d she said. \u201cThe officials, they don\u2019t say anything.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>As President Donald Trump\u2019s \u201czero tolerance\u201d policy, which separated more than 2,500 children from their parents at the border in May and June, stretches into its third month, the administration has to contend with some impending deadlines, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.latimes.com\/local\/lanow\/la-me-judge-immigration-20180626-story.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">set by a judge last week<\/a> after the American Civil Liberties Union sued. By July 10, children under 5 must be reunited with their parents. By July 26, all families must be together. By Friday, officials must arrange phone calls between all parents and children.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"module align-left half type-aside\">\n<h3>About this article<\/h3>\n<p>This article comes from\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.propublica.org\/article\/i-just-want-to-tell-my-son-i-love-him-letters-from-parents-immigration-detention\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">ProPublica<\/a>, a Pulitzer Prize-winning newsroom.\u00a0Sign up for their\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.propublica.org\/forms\/newsletter_daily_email\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">newsletter<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/aside>\n<p>But a week after Department of Homeland Security officials called their process to reunify families \u201cwell-coordinated,\u201d many parents at Port Isabel \u2014 the primary facility housing separated parents \u2014 don\u2019t know where their children are and some still haven\u2019t been able to reach their kids, according to three detainees interviewed by ProPublica, along with two family members of parents inside and five lawyers granted broader access to the facility, who say they have interviewed more than 200 separated parents and guardians. ProPublica is not including the detainees\u2019 last names at their request; their immigration cases are still pending.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI just want to tell my son I love him,\u201d sobbed Arely, a mother from El Salvador, during a phone call with a reporter. She, too, had been in detention almost three weeks without a call.<\/p>\n<p>ICE did not immediately respond to questions posed Friday about parents not being able to speak with their children, and being in the dark about their whereabouts. It did not respond to additional questions posed Sunday about how many separated parents are being held at Port Isabel, how many have been able to speak with their kids, and whether any have been released on bond.<\/p>\n<p>The parents wait in a detention center where the telephones barely work, there\u2019s no internet, and officers shut off the TV news when the topic turns to immigration, the detainees said. Phone conversations are guarded \u2014 detainees know calls are recorded. Rumors are what\u2019s left. There was one about detention officers urging people to sign deportation papers as the quickest way to see their kids again. It\u2019s made detainees wary about signing any piece of paper, even when it comes from lawyers offering to help connect them with their kids, said Sophia Gregg, an immigration lawyer at Legal Aid Justice.<\/p>\n<p>When she and a group of lawyers came from Washington, D.C., to conduct outreach interviews with the parents two weeks ago, many parents overcame their distrust enough to pass them letters, in hopes that the lawyers would find their children and deliver the messages. ProPublica reviewed a portion of the letters.<\/p>\n<p>In one, a father tries to reassure his daughter. <em>Don\u2019t worry, because I am with you. I want to ask you to eat well, and if you eat well, then I will be happy.<\/em><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>In another, a mother apologizes to her daughter, <em>for putting you in this situation that is so difficult\u2026 I just pray to God that you are well, because I am suffering a lot for you. I want this nightmare to end already, my love.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>No one outside DHS knows for sure how many separated parents are inside Port Isabel. Unlike some other immigrant detention facilities, this one does not make detainee information public, so the lawyers say it has taken extra work to reach parents. The lawyers who visited two weeks ago started with a small list of parents whose names they knew. Word of mouth within the dorms brought out more who previously had no contact with lawyers and no family members on the outside to help them.<\/p>\n<p>The lawyers say they now have a list of more than 200 separated parents from Port Isabel. They hope a new <a href=\"https:\/\/www.vera.org\/newsroom\/press-releases\/the-vera-institute-of-justice-and-new-america-launch-the-immigrant-connection-project-icon-to-help-reconnect-separated-children-and-families\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">database<\/a> launched by the Vera Institute and New America will help reconnect the families.<\/p>\n<p>When the lawyers first began reaching out to parents about three weeks ago, some told them they had been kept apart from their kids for days, others for close to a month. \u201cICE never came and talked to them and even asked if they were separated from their child,\u201d said Jodi Goodwin, a local immigration lawyer. \u201cLiterally, there was zero communication at all.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>In conversations with the lawyers, parents weighed the decisions they\u2019d have to make: Continue an asylum claim or choose deportation, hoping the U.S. government would stand by its word to reunite them with their children? If they lost their asylum claims, would they ask their children to give up theirs, too, or try to place them with family members in the U.S.? Some worried that their children were too young or did not know enough to accurately describe the danger in their home countries, especially after their parents had done their best to shield them from it. Such details are crucial to winning asylum cases.<\/p>\n<p>Natasha Quiroga, an education civil rights lawyer who flew in from Washington to volunteer, said the stories flowed together: The mom concerned about her 7-year-old who is deaf and mute; the dad who had just signed his deportation orders, hoping it meant he would be reunified with his 4-year-old; the father who had no idea where his daughter was, and wanted to write a letter to her, but did not know how to write. Quiroga wrote the letter for him, transcribing as he repeated the same sentence over and over, telling her how much he loves her and how much he hopes to see her soon.<\/p>\n<p>Such opportunities for contact with outsiders are rare at Port Isabel. The facility is tucked away down remote rural roads on Texas\u2019 southeastern tip, making it difficult for lawyers to maintain a consistent presence.<\/p>\n<p>Trying to coordinate speaking with a detainee from outside is also difficult. ProPublica was able to arrange calls with three detained parents with the help of lawyers and a family member who contacted ProPublica about a relative\u2019s case. People on the outside can call and leave messages asking a detainee to call them back, but cannot call a detainee directly. So parents call outsiders back at unexpected times. You must be available to pick up and sometimes have your credit card handy to pay for the call, or else lose the chance. Once on the line, their phones sometimes break up and lose service unexpectedly.<\/p>\n<p>For those inside Port Isabel, access to information is limited, detainees said. After their plight became national news, detainees say televisions began to show only telenovelas and English programming. Parents said they weren\u2019t aware of the court order on reunification until they heard from lawyers. Jenn Elzea, a spokesperson for ICE, said that only some televisions in the facility are controlled by detention staff. \u201cThey do have access, in theory, to television throughout the facility,\u201d she said. ICE Detention standard guidelines <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ice.gov\/doclib\/detention-standards\/2011\/5-4.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">say<\/a>, \u201cAll television viewing schedules shall be subject to the facility administrator\u2019s approval.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Goodwin, one of the lawyers, said ICE confiscated letters addressed to detainees by reporters, and pulled three intended recipients out of their dorms to ask, \u201cWhy does his person have your name? Where did they get your information?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>ICE did not immediately respond to questions about this posed on Sunday.<\/p>\n<p>Democratic Sens. Elizabeth Warren of Massachusetts and Catherine Cortez Masto of Nevada toured the facility last week and offered their assessments. \u201cIt\u2019s clear\u2026 They\u2019re not running a reunification process here,\u201d Warren <a href=\"https:\/\/www.washingtonpost.com\/local\/immigration\/desperate-to-get-children-back-migrants-are-willing-to-give-up-asylum-claims-lawyers-say\/2018\/06\/24\/c7fab87c-77e2-11e8-80be-6d32e182a3bc_story.html?utm_term=.36008125e454\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">said<\/a>. In response, ICE promised to set up phone calls for every separated parent to speak to their children, lawyers said. ICE has also clarified that physical reunifications will not be taking place at Port Isabel, a detention center where children are not allowed to be held. \u201cWe are reuniting people via communication,\u201d said Elzea.<\/p>\n<p>And so, this past week, a trickle of officially coordinated phone calls slowly began. Parents were called one by one to small visitation rooms to hear their children\u2019s voices for a few minutes.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAn officer would dial the number, make sure the Office of Refugee Resettlement employee was on the other line, and bring the parent to take the call,\u201d said Ruby Powers, an immigration attorney based out of Houston who volunteered at Port Isabel this week. \u201cYou could just see tears of joy,\u201d she said. \u201cYou can tell from a parent who has talked to a child and one who hasn\u2019t\u2026 The parent who has, has a lot more peace.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Some parents were so overcome with emotion during the brief calls, it didn\u2019t cross their minds to ask their children where exactly they were, Quiroga said. Before they knew it, time was up.<\/p>\n<p>Some calls were difficult for other reasons.<\/p>\n<p>One mother told Goodwin her 6-year-old didn\u2019t want to talk to her on the phone \u201c<em>porque me abandonaste, mam\u00e1<\/em>\u201d \u2014 because you abandoned me, mommy.<\/p>\n<p>And Daisy, a 21-year-old separated from her 12-year-old brother, hung up feeling unsettled after a vague conversation, she told ProPublica. Normally hyperactive, he answered her in monosyllables.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHow are you?\u201d Daisy asked. Good, he said.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHow\u2019s it going?\u201d Fine.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAre you eating well?\u201d Yes.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAre you having any fun there?\u201d Yeah.<\/p>\n<p>She said she brought her brother to the U.S. border from Honduras after their mother died. Their father was violent, she said, and she felt she was the only person looking out for him. Lawyers said they are worried the two may face even more roadblocks in trying to reunite, as Daisy is a sibling, not a mother.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhen I spoke with him, it\u2019s not like when you have them near \u2014 I don\u2019t know the truth,\u201d Daisy said. \u201cHe says he is fine, but I won\u2019t really know until I see him. Then I\u2019ll know that he is well.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Even when family members do connect, it\u2019s far from clear what happens next in the hastily created reunification process.<\/p>\n<p>The Department of Homeland Security appears to present deportation as the only path to reunification. The department\u2019s zero tolerance <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dhs.gov\/news\/2018\/06\/23\/fact-sheet-zero-tolerance-prosecution-and-family-reunification\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fact sheet<\/a> says \u201ca parent who is ordered removed from the U.S. may request that his or her minor child accompany them,\u201d but says nothing about reunifying families during the immigration process and beyond. (Reporters have also <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2018\/06\/17\/us\/immigration-deported-parents.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">documented<\/a> cases of parents who were deported without their children, before the fact sheet was released.)<\/p>\n<p>For those who hold out hope that they will be able to receive asylum protection in the U.S., this weekend brought a glimpse of what reunification might look like when a mother was <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2018\/06\/30\/nyregion\/immigrants-separated-no-progress-on-reunification.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">released<\/a> Saturday from a detention center in Arizona, after she passed the first step of her asylum claim.<\/p>\n<p>Supporters helped her pay a $7,500 bond with a crowdfunding campaign and drove her to New York, where her three children \u2014 6, 9, and 11 \u2014 had been placed in foster homes. She\u2019ll be able to visit them as much as she wants from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., but she can\u2019t take custody of them while her asylum case is pending, The New York Times reported. A relative in North Carolina has applied to sponsor the children, but the mother probably won\u2019t be able to live with them, because every adult in a sponsor\u2019s home must be legally vetted.<\/p>\n<p>At Port Isabel, lawyers say they know of no parents who have been released on bond into the U.S.<\/p>\n<p>So Blanca waits, straining to hear what she can on her unreliable lifeline to the outside world. She said her sister-in-law told her that her daughters are now in a New York foster home. But a social worker told her sister-in-law the location is undisclosed, to protect the caregiver\u2019s privacy.<\/p>\n<div class=\"note contributor-line\">\n<p><em>Jess Ramirez contributed to this report.<\/em><script type=\"text\/javascript\" src=\"http:\/\/pixel.propublica.org\/pixel.js\" async><\/script><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Parents held in immigration detention without their kids say the phones barely work and they still don\u2019t know when they will see their children again.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":597042,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[140,234],"class_list":["post-599806","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-news-and-analysis","tag-border-and-immigration","tag-children"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/599806","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=599806"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/599806\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/597042"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=599806"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=599806"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nmpolitics.net\/index\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=599806"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}